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The joys (and desperation) of raising a boy without a man

After A While You learn… (Poem)

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After a while you learn the difference,

the subtle difference between

holding a hand and chaining a soul

 

And you learn

that love doesn’t mean leaning

and company doesn’t always mean security.

And you begin to learn

that kisses aren’t contracts

and presents aren’t promises.

 

and you begin to accept your defeats

with your head up and your eyes ahead

with the grace of woman,

not the grief of a child.

 

And you learn

to build all your roads on today

because tomorrow’s ground is

too uncertain for plans

and futures have a way of falling down

in mid-flight.

 

After a while you learn

that even sunshine burns

if you get too much

 

And you learn that it takes years to build trust

but only seconds to destroy it.

And that you can do things in a split second

and regret it for the rest of your life.

 

You learn that the true friendships continue to grow

even with long distances.

And that what matters is not what you have in the life,

but who you have in life.

 

With time you learn that good friends

are the family we were allowed to choose

and that you and your best friend can do many things together

or nothing at all but still have a great time.

 

You start to learn that It takes a lot of time

to become the person we want

and time is short.

It doesn’t matter where you are in life,

but where you are going.

So please don’t compare yourself with others,

but with the best that you can be.

 

 

After a while you learn that love,

just like patience,

requires practice.

And its not because it didn’t come in the package you imaged,

that its any less valuable.

 

After a while you learn that

it does not matter in how many pieces your heart was broken;

the world will not stop for you to fix it.

 

So plant your own garden

and decorate your own soul

instead of waiting for someone

to bring you flowers.

 

And you learn that you really can endure

you really are strong

you really do have worth

and you learn

and you learn

with every loss, you learn…

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Author: Brisa Pinho

Brazilian. Piscean. Project manager. Raising a boy in a man's world... without a man.

One thought on “After A While You learn… (Poem)

  1. Wow! I love this. Thank you so much and lifting me up tonight.

    As a fellow Single Mom of of two sweet little Girls, I send you Love and Blessings….

    Katie

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